Building Confidence From Failure
One of the strangest things, to me, about the human psyche is that almost everyone is afraid of failure.
Everybody and their mama at some point is afraid of being laughed at, looked down upon, falling flat on their face or having someone call them a loser. This, to an extent, is understandable, but it's not the end of the world. It just puts the other person's emotions on display which in most cases is a weakness.
But the real fact of the matter is, with the right attitude, failure can be your best friend. In fact, if you would ask any successful person, they would prolly tell you that you cannot achieve success without tasting some form of failure and falling on your ass along the way. And how you handle that failure will ultimately decide your destiny.
Think about it.. often times many employers are hesitant to hire people with little to no experience. Typically they are to hire someone who's had somewhat of an experience in the particular field EVEN IF THEY WERE FIRED. Instead of someone who's still wet behind the ears.
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Follow these insights to get the most out of your experiences:
You learn more from your mistakes
Embrace your errors, because without them you cannot grow. Getting something right is great, but usually you don't learn anything from it other than what you already know. Getting something wrong means that you now have the opportunity to learn something new and get it right the second time. Failures allow us to improve ourselves, which is essentially what life is about – a journey of self-improvement.
Never make the same mistake twice
Every time you get something wrong, or fail in doing something analyze what went wrong so that you can ensure that you can keep your promise to yourself. Without truly understanding the reasons for you failure you cannot grow, nor can you ensure the mistake doesn’t repeat itself.
Don’t play the blame game
Many people tend to throw blame unto others by saying “It was his fault for messing it up” or “Everything could have gone smoothly if it wasn’t for her.” Playing the blame game gets no one anywhere, especially in the workplace.
Focus instead on what could have been done to alleviate against such problems resurfacing. For example, if a certain individual didn’t perform his or her duty, try to give them another task to carry out next time or delegate an extra person to help them out. Always remember, you cannot turn back time, but you can make the most of whatever time is left.
There’s nowhere to go but up
One of the best things about failing is that it usually just can’t get any worse. And as long as you keep trying, you are bound to eventually succeed. And then all your failures will be nothing but the memories of the past.
With these concepts of failure in mind, you stand to gain more confidence from mistakes that what you lose.